When’s the right time?

By | October 18, 2010

I’m a little bit broody.  Just a little.

It’s not the same broodiness as before I had C but it’s there.  It seems to come and go too, not like the burning desire I had when we were trying for C but sometimes it’s quite strong.

If we were in a better place financially and the house was finished I’d say yes, I’d definitely have another baby right now.  But I know that it would be impossible at the moment.  We’re only just getting back on track after me being on maternity leave last time, and we still have lots to spend on the house.  Not to mention the fact that if we had another baby now it would mean we’d either have to rely on my parents to have 2 children while I went to work or send one or both to nursery – again a financial road block.

I’m a sensible person.  I know to have another baby now would be stupid but there’s still a part of me that’s a bit sad about this fact.  And it’s not just the financial/time aspect I’d be up against anyway – at the moment M is perfectly happy with just C, and as far as I know he might always be happy with just one.  Personally, I can’t imagine not having any more children.  16 months after having C and I still miss my bump, still get jealous of other pregnant women and still go gooey at tiny clothes.

Part of me wonders if it’s broodiness at all, or maybe I’m just getting emotional at the fact that C is no longer a baby.  Either way, I wonder how long it’ll be before something gives, one way or another.

How do you know when’s the right time to go for a second child?  Do finances matter as much as we think they will?

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emma on October 18, 2010 at 6:42 pm.

Personally I don’t think fianances matter as much – but then its easy to say that when your not struggling. I still have the broody feeling after three. Thought i’d KNOW i’ve finished after the little one – but could do it again. However that said we won’t. I’d like to foster in the future though.