Before I start, I realise this post will probably sound very ungrateful and I don’t want that. I am so so grateful for all the help we receive.
So, my parents have C when I work, 3 days a week. Generally this all works out fine, we have the odd disagreement about my dad feeding C sweets but mostly all is good.
The thing that’s bothering me, and has been for quite a while, is my parents assuming they can dictate when we can have another baby. They are adamant that they won’t be able to look after 2 children so we *must* wait until C is in full time school before even considering having another. This just isn’t going to happen as I’d much prefer an age gap of less than 6 years.
In reality, we’re thinking of trying for another early next year. If things happened quickly, C would be around 3.5 when baby #2 was born and in nursery 5 mornings a week. Add to this my 9 months of maternity leave and it would leave a maximum of a year where I’d need to work before C started school full-time.
I actually think when it came down to it that my parents would have baby #2 for those 3 days a week that I work and still be able to have C 3 afternoons but I don’t want to take that for granted so we’re trying to come up with another plan which would probably be a combination of C and baby #2 going to the local preschool, which C is already at for one morning a week at the moment.
Whatever happens we’d make something work. Things usually appear more complicated than they actually are! I’m just annoyed that my parents are putting us in this situation. I now feel that if we do get pregnant I’m somehow ‘disobeying’ them, which makes me feel guilty just thinking about it.
M and I both really want another baby in the next year or so but I feel like there is a cloud hanging over us which will overshadow all the good things. My parents feelings about it won’t stop us going for #2 but I really wish they weren’t so negative about it.
Of course, my real plan is to win the lottery so childcare isn’t even an issue. Wish me luck.