When will I grow up?

By | November 22, 2011

When do you become an adult?  Obviously in the eyes of the law it’s when you’re 18 but somedays I still feel like I’m 18 and I definitely don’t feel like an adult.

I am a complete contradiction.  I did ‘adult things’ quite young – I moved out at 18, had a mortgage by 19 and got married 2 days after I turned 21 – yet I still don’t feel grown up most of the time.  Yes, the bills get paid, we have jobs, there’s always food in the fridge and we try to be good parents but sometimes it feels like I’m just playing house.

I wonder if there’ll be a point when I suddenly feel grown up?  I thought it might happen when I became a parent but it didn’t, not really.  Will I be 60 and still feeling 20?  When did it happen for you, or do you feel the same as me?

“I was wise enough to never grow up while fooling most people into believing I had.”– Margaret Mead.

“If growing up means it would be beneath my dignity to climb a tree, 
I won’t grow up, never grow up, never grow up, not me. ” 
― J M Barrie (Peter Pan)

“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”
– George Bernard Shaw



Jenny paulin on November 22, 2011 at 1:58 pm.

I especially like the third quote – very true!
I dont feel 37 in fact i find it hard to come to terms with my age as i dont feel that different in the inside at least than i did in my very early 20’s. I feel older in that i am much more tired and ache a bit more and maybe a bit more sensible now, but i still feel silly and a bit child like at times!! So half and half maybe?
Good post though xx

Fiona (@nlpmum) on November 22, 2011 at 4:20 pm.

I’m 45 and I was climbing trees at the weekend. I haven’t grown up and I don’t intend to. I’ve noticed that people who choose not to grow up have younger friends and look much younger (without surgery!). Anyhow, why would you want to?
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Close To The Green on November 22, 2011 at 10:17 pm.

Sometimes I wish I could feel like a grown up and wonder why I don’t, given the grown up life I have! There’s still a part of me that wants to move back in with my parents again and give cheek. I don’t have the energy or inclination to climb trees anymore, but I don’t feel comfortable being responsible for everything either, which I guess is what being a grown up is all about! No wonder we resist it as long as we can x
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