C goes to preschool every Wednesday morning from 8.15am to 12.45pm. She started last July and, after the first few weeks where she was a little upset when I left, has been fine and loved going. Until Christmas.
Since returning in January she seems to have got worse with each week. Last week she was practically screaming, holding on to my legs and in floods of tears as I went out of the room. It makes me feel so awful leaving her like that, even though I know she’s fine once I’m gone.
This morning we were talking about school and C told me she didn’t want to go to school. I asked why, as school was lots of fun, and her response was ‘there’s too many people’. A little baffled I questioned further. There weren’t too many children – they were her friends – but too many grown ups. Further questioning revealed the grown up in question to be the only male member of staff there.
The person in question was in the toddler room when C first started there but has been in the baby room for months now. I’m certain he hasn’t done anything to C but she’s always been wary of men she doesn’t know, taking a long time for them to gain her trust.
She must only see this person very briefly throughout the morning – possibly when they all play outside – but it’s obviously bothering her and I don’t know what to do about it.
I’ve told her he’s not scary and that he’s a nice man but apart from that I don’t know what else I can do. This morning I let her sneak one of her toys into her bag and told her he would look after her and although she wasn’t as bad as last week, we still had tears.
Is there anything else I can do to help her get over this? I don’t really think there’s much point in me speaking to preschool about it as she’s fine once I’ve left, it’s just actually letting me leave the room that’s the problem.
She does still love being at preschool but it can’t be good for her to get so upset about it.